Help! Where do I start?
When faced with a large list of potential goals or things we’d really like to achieve, we often ‘shut down’ or become overwhelmed and fail to choose a starting point for even ONE of them! The team at 100 Days are certainly familiar with this issue – we’re human, too. We faced this challenge while creating 100 Days when we were faced with a myriad of activities and goals that we needed to achieve in order to bring it to the world – where to start!?!?
What we’d like to share with you here is a short questioning process we used (Padesky & Greenberger, 1995) that we hope you find helpful to assess which goal to tackle FIRST Start with answering questions 1 and 2 for yourself to identify urgent goals:
First, ask yourself these 2 questions:
1.) Are any of these goals going to result in a crisis if I don’t get onto them right away?
2.) Which one of these goals would help me make the most immediate improvement in my life if I were to achieve it ?
If you turned up urgent goals in Question 1 and/or Question 2, ask yourself this follow-up question:
3.) Before I can accomplish the goals I identified in Question 1 and/or Question 2, is there any other goal that I should achieve FIRST in order to be ready to achieve the goals in #1 and #2?
If, for some reason, these questions haven’t uncovered an urgent goal, ask yourself:
4.) Which of my goals is the most important to me?
Finally, if you’re struggling to place a sense of importance on any of the goals, ask yourself:
5.) Which of my goals would be the easiest to accomplish?
We want you to be successful at achieving that ENTIRE list of goals you have set for yourself, but we know sometimes it’s hard to figure out where to start. Hopefully, this tool has given you a leg up on identifying something you can tackle today so you can start to experience some successes – however small.
Reference: Clinician’s Guide to Mind Over Mood by C.A. Padesky & D. Greenberger (1995).